Death matters, and you never ever get over it.
The sentence that starts this chapter dealing with the reality of death that we all must face. Our own and especially the death of those we love. We don’t know when it may occur but the clock keeps ticking off the seconds until that inevitable moment.
There is death. And whatever is matters. And whatever has consequences, and it and they are irrevocable and irreversible. You might as well say birth does not matter.
C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
Impending death and the aftermath of death changes us. It is an ending to a chapter.
Not the end of our story.
For our story continues albeit with a dramatic ‘plot twist!’ that changes everything and an open road now lies before us
There are many rituals, both cultural and personal, that we carry into the future with us. In many cases, in my opinion, we sterilize death especially in America. I talk at some length about this in this chapter and my disdain for it.
We often fail to grieve… in any true sense of the word. Instead, we often believe the best thing you can do with death is to ride off from it.
Hell, I still struggle with it to this day almost 30 years after her death. So, another question – where and what does that say about me?
And then there is the subject of the after life. Of angels, demons and supposed communications with the dead. I have had only dreams, very few, of Luka and never a visitation from a ghost or spirit. Hers or any other.
I have spoke at length about this topic in three live video interviews I did which are still available –
- Grief Reclaimed – Through the Black (Rumble)
- How the Paranormal Uses Grief to Deceive People – Unveiling the Paranormal (YouTube)
- Grief Exploited – Through the Black (YouTube)
Death, a simple word really, only one syllable but containing worlds filled with promises, rewards, fear, mystery, beginnings, and endings. It is a reality and one that we all must face.
Death, a simple word really, only one syllable but containing worlds filled with promises, rewards, fear, mystery, beginnings, and endings. It is a reality and one that we all must face.
-Chapter 19, page 169, Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry
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I am Mark W. Schutter, Life After Coach and Author of the memoir, Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry, and we all need a little support sometimes.
Read my thoughts on previous chapters of my memoir, links below.
Part 1 – Reconciling the Past
- Revisiting Chapter 1 – Out of the Sun
- Revisiting Chapter 2 – A Far Better Place
- Revisiting Chapter 3 – Walking Away
- Revisiting Chapter 4 – Still Miles to Walk
- Revisiting Chapter 5 – Death is Only the Beginning
- Revisiting Chapter 6 – To Love What’s Leaving
- Revisiting Chapter 7 – I Am the One Dying
- Revisiting Chapter 8 – The Lingering Ambiguity
Part 2 – Embracing the Present
- Revisiting Chapter 9 – Wearing Masks -Who Are We Really?
- Revisiting Chapter 10 – A Different Trajectory
- Revisiting Chapter 11 – Not Wanting to Be Alive
- Revisiting Chapter 12 – Birthdays, Anniversaries, and Other Triggers
- Revisiting Chapter 13 – We Choose the Scars We Will Carry
- Revisiting Chapter 14- As the World Moves On
Part 3 – Redeeming the Future
- Revisiting Chapter 15 – The Judgment of a Bad Man
- Revisiting Chapter 16 – Holding Space to Dream Big
- Revisiting Chapter 17 – Physical Beauty and Emotional Scars
- Revisiting Chapter 18 – Death Feeds Life, Children
Now, saddle up! The adventure that is your Life After awaits!
