Pain – Mark Wayne – Author and Warrior

Sometimes the words fade…
~Mark Wayne, chapter 17, Page 149

This chapter was not only one of, but may have been the hardest chapter to write, and even more so to include in my memoir.

I have feelings of anxiety, knowing others have read the words I wrote, and proud of myself at the same time. The honesty and transparency regarding the emotional and physical intimacy that can occur within a marriage, is evident. The words reveal so much of my own insecurities and failures, and I assume many of hers as well.

I pray the words, speak to others that the battles we face are sometimes behind closed doors where no one sees. At a point where I was struggling when writing my story, my daughter gave me a handwritten note that simply said,

“Somebody out there needs your story.” ❤
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So, I kept writing spurred on by her encouragement and love. Until finally, after many months I held the finished book in my hands. I pray it helps others feel not so alone.

Back to the chapter at hand. I won’t go into detail here about the content of the chapter suffice to say it is about physical and emotional beauty, attraction and desire between a man and a woman. God given desires of our hearts I believe.

We live in a paradox of what society says is the “ideal” when behind closed doors it often falls short of that imagined perfection. The reality is often so different, at least it was in my case, and maybe hers’ as well, who’s to say? And so we move forward battling together and alone at the same time.

Sometimes all you can do is live with it.
Page 153, Chapter 17, 𝐂𝐨𝐰𝐛𝐨𝐲𝐬 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐫𝐲

The scars… both physical and emotional that we all carry from the wounds we have been dealt in this life. I did not understand it then and I certainly don’t pretend to understand it now, these thirty years later. I realize there are more questions here than answers, just like in the chapter of my memoir. So I will leave you with the following quote.

The best is perhaps what is understood least.

~C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

Get your copy of Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry here >

And a review on Amazon or Goodreads would be very much appreciated. Thanks again!

> If you are struggling with moving forward following the death of a loved on and searching for your best “Life After”, reach out.

Leave a comment or email me at info@markschutter.com. I’ll follow up with some additional information and how to book a free call to chat and see if I can help. Thanks!

I am Mark W. Schutter, “Life After” Coach and Author of the memoir, 𝐂𝐨𝐰𝐛𝐨𝐲𝐬 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐂𝐫𝐲, and we all need a little support sometimes.

Read my thoughts on previous chapters of my memoir, links below.

Part 1 – Reconciling the Past

Part 2 – Embracing the Present

Part 3 – Redeeming the Future

Now, saddle up! The adventure that is your “Life After” awaits!

Grief, Life, memoir

The Dark Side of Grief

August 2, 2022 Mark Wayne

👊 𝗣𝗢𝗩: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝗿𝗸 𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗼𝗳 𝗴𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗳

Watch my entire IG reel here > https://www.instagram.com/reel/CgM9CwSpxSd/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=

Opening up the conversation to talk about the dark and uncomfortable things surrounding grief, loss, pain, death, life after and healing.

Why?

🤔 Because a man’s grief is different.

Pull up a chair to the fire, I offer:

👊 Grief coaching for men.
😒Helping men find their best 𝙇𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝘼𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙏𝙧𝙖𝙪𝙢𝙖

Who am I and why?

📔 Author of the memoir – 𝘾𝙤𝙬𝙗𝙤𝙮𝙨 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙎𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝘾𝙧𝙮

𝘾𝙤𝙬𝙗𝙤𝙮𝙨 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙎𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝘾𝙧𝙮

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗱𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗵 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗼𝗳𝗳 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗶𝘁?

First step: ➡️ DM to book a call to chat

Shoot me a DM if you are struggling with overcoming grief and pain, have questions or just need someone to come alongside you and sit with you in silence (Job 2:13).

We’ll schedule a free call to see if we are a good fit and I can help.

God bless and saddle up the adventure of your life after trauma awaits. 👊

Life, memoir

RASPBERRIES!!!

July 12, 2022July 11, 2022 Mark Wayne

I like fruit, how about you? 🤔

For me ripening raspberries means summer and life. I have a lot of memories tied to raspberries and promises of better days ahead.

I talk a lot about death and grief in many of my posts across social media but also healing and finding your best life after the pain.

⏩ Although we will always carry some of the pain with us…

There is death and it matters but there is also rebirth and life.

Ask me how I know. 😉

⏩ I am the author of – 𝘾𝙤𝙬𝙗𝙤𝙮𝙨 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙎𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝘾𝙧𝙮. I have walked through my own valley of the shadow of death.

If you need more and are struggling with overcoming grief and pain from a loss let me know. It takes courage to reach out and I offer the following those who are hurting.

👊 Grief coaching for men.
🙁 Helping men find their best 𝙇𝙞𝙛𝙚 𝘼𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧

Shoot me a message via my contact page and we can schedule a call to see if we are a good fit and I can help.

God bless! And saddle up, the adventure of your life after pain and grief awaits. 👊

Available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and iTunes.

Life, memoir, Writing

Do You Listen to Podcasts?

January 25, 2022January 25, 2022 Mark Wayne

Last week I was interviewed by Meghan Judge for her podcast Judging Meghan and the episode aired today, January 25, 2022. We talked about:

My story of grief and loss, the backstory
My impetus to share my story and my book – Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry
How and why men have a hard time talking about mental health
The after life and healing in this life to find a life after

You can listen on any of these platforms, as well as many others:

Take a listen and leave me a comment. I would love to hear what you think. Thanks!

memoir, Writing

What Keeps You Up At Night?

January 20, 2022January 20, 2022 Mark Wayne

My latest email newsletter had dropped and below is a preview!

Happy 2022 and I need your help!

The free pdf I am offering below is a precursor to other resources I am
currently creating including different online courses related to grief and
healing. So my questions to you are:

What thoughts related to grief, pain, loss and healing keep you up at
night?
What is the hardest thing you have had to navigate as it relates to your
experience with grief, pain, loss, and healing?
What do you really want as it relates to your own grief, pain, loss, and
healing?
Just hit reply to this email and let me know. Your responses will remain
anonymous but will also inform the creation of resources that will help others.

Thanks!

Thanks and have a great day!

Grief, Life, memoir

When You Ask A Man How He Is.

January 12, 2022January 12, 2022 Mark Wayne

“I’m alright.”

A man says “I’m alright” when asked how he is because nobody cares?

I tend to disagree with the last line in the audio of the video that a man simply responds “I’m alright” because no one f&%king cares. I think others, men and women, do care.

The problem is we don’t always know how to care or show that we care. We don’t know what to do or say, especially men. We get uncomfortable with the feelings and vulnerability that this question invokes. Life is a struggle at times and no one is immune. Why can’t we acknowledge the struggle and the pain that we may be feeling?

I think we have been programmed, again especially as men, to ignore our feelings of sadness, pain, regret and grief. And women are programmed to expect men to respond this way. Remember boys, and men, are supposed to be tough and strong. But why do we stereotype a man who is hurting and feeling as not being strong and tough?

What strength does it take to confront our pain and heal from it?

I talk a lot about expectations, real and perceived, that I accepted from society, family, friends when I was grieving. The impacts it has had on me and the struggles in my book – 𝘾𝙤𝙬𝙗𝙤𝙮𝙨 𝘼𝙧𝙚 𝙉𝙤𝙩 𝙎𝙪𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝘾𝙧𝙮.

When you ask a man how he is and he says “I’m alright.” #CowboysAreNotSupposedtoCry #MentalHealth #Men #Healing #LifeAfter #Trauma #Pain #Loss #Grief
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What emotions and feelings are you hiding from others?

Grief, Life, Writing

Pain – It’s Not a Competition

November 18, 2021November 18, 2021 Mark Wayne

It is not a competition, although some will try to make it into one.

“Yeah, but let me tell you what happened to me…”

We all have stories to tell and they should be told. There is often healing in our sharing and it may give others hope. There is resilience and a vulnerable courage in sharing our pain and also our triumphs.

There can be “life after” if we choose it and others stories may help us get there. But sometimes, preaching to myself here, we need to shut up and just listen. Or sit in silence with someone in their pain.

There is more than enough these days to go around.

(Read Job 2:13)

memoir, Writing

There is and can be ‘life after…”

October 18, 2021 Mark Wayne

Print and e-book available now on Amazon and Barnes and Noble

Here is the video trailer >

What do you think of when you hear the word grief?

How would you describe the experience, your experience?

𝗖𝗼𝘄𝗯𝗼𝘆𝘀 𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗿𝘆 > Available now on Amazon > https://www.amzn.com/1639031022 #Grief #Memoir #Healing #Men
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Life, memoir, Photograph

Coming changes, can you see them?

September 8, 2021September 8, 2021 Mark Wayne

There are changes coming my friends. Perhaps some for the better and some for the worse. Who knows?

I cannot see that far in the future to know what may come. There is one who does because he is already there and that is where I choose to place my trust.

These changes will irrevocably change us as we move forward.

Because as the Ringo Kid (John Wayne) said in Stagecoach, there are some things you just can’t run away from. 👊

Available now on Amazon – https://www.amzn.com/1639031022

Grief, Writing

My Memoir is Available for Pre-sale!!!

August 27, 2021 Mark Wayne

Although not officially released my memoir 𝗖𝗼𝘄𝗯𝗼𝘆𝘀 𝗔𝗿𝗲 𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗿𝘆 is now available to purchase through pre-sale on Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com – go order a copy today!

My publisher Christian Faith Publishing is currently converting the book to the various E-book formats to upload soon. They are also creating a video trailer for the book and a press release to go out to thousands of media outlets including bloggers, journalists, newspapers, television and radio stations, websites and book reviewers. When the press release goes out that will be the “official release” for the book, but why wait?

Go order your copy today! It is a story of love, hope, and healing.

Again, you can now purchase the book online at Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com.

Soon I will be offering autographed copies through my website here, along with some other promotional events and giveaways to compliment the book. Stay tuned for that!

How can you support me and help promote the book?

Buy the book (hardcopy and e-book), read the book and share on social media, post a review on Amazon, Goodreads etc.
Buy the book (hardcopy and e-book), read the book and share on social media.
Buy the book (hardcopy and e-book).

P.S. – I am planning an audio version of the book to be available soon also!