Writing, Life, memoir

Do You Listen to Podcasts?

Last week I was interviewed by Meghan Judge for her podcast Judging Meghan and the episode aired today, January 25, 2022. We talked about:

  • My story of grief and loss, the backstory
  • My impetus to share my story and my book – Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry
  • How and why men have a hard time talking about mental health
  • The after life and healing in this life to find a life after

You can listen on any of these platforms, as well as many others:

Take a listen and leave me a comment. I would love to hear what you think. Thanks!

Grief, Life, memoir

When You Ask A Man How He Is.

“I’m alright.”

A man says “I’m alright” when asked how he is because nobody cares?

I tend to disagree with the last line in the audio of the video that a man simply responds “I’m alright” because no one f&%king cares. I think others, men and women, do care.

The problem is we don’t always know how to care or show that we care. We don’t know what to do or say, especially men. We get uncomfortable with the feelings and vulnerability that this question invokes. Life is a struggle at times and no one is immune. Why can’t we acknowledge the struggle and the pain that we may be feeling?

Are you uncomfortable sharing your true feelings and if so why?

I think we have been programmed, again especially as men, to ignore our feelings of sadness, pain, regret and grief. And women are programmed to expect men to respond this way. Remember boys, and men, are supposed to be tough and strong. But why do we stereotype a man who is hurting and feeling as not being strong and tough?

What strength does it take to confront our pain and heal from it?

I talk a lot about expectations, real and perceived, that I accepted from society, family, friends when I was grieving. The impacts it has had on me and the struggles in my book – ๐˜พ๐™ค๐™ฌ๐™—๐™ค๐™ฎ๐™จ ๐˜ผ๐™ง๐™š ๐™‰๐™ค๐™ฉ ๐™Ž๐™ช๐™ฅ๐™ฅ๐™ค๐™จ๐™š๐™™ ๐™ฉ๐™ค ๐˜พ๐™ง๐™ฎ.

Available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and iTunes.

When you ask a man how he is and he says “I’m alright.” #CowboysAreNotSupposedtoCry #MentalHealth #Men #Healing #LifeAfter #Trauma #Pain #Loss #Grief

What emotions and feelings are you hiding from others?

Adventure, Life, Writing

2022 Is Here, Are You Lost Yet?

The calendar has turned over to 2022, whether we welcome in the new year or not it is now here. It is indifferent to our feelings, our wants, our desires, and our needs. Time marches on as the hands on the clocks tick endlessly on until the batteries run down and the motor stops.

Is this a metaphor for our lives? Our lives move on, whether we do or not, until our batteries run down until we are faced with our own deaths and our life’s ending.

With everything going on in our world today, we can often feel lost. Maybe we need to intentionally get lost? Turn off the electronics and away from the incessant noise of social media and the news.

3 Tips – Get, Go, and Grab!

  • Get outside into nature, put on a coat and hat if its cold, and turn off the notifications on your phone. Trust me you’ll be okay. ๐Ÿ˜‰
  • Go somewhere you’ve never been before and really look at what is in front of you. Especially if you don’t know where you are. ๐Ÿ˜Ž
  • Grab someone you love and hold them tight. Feel their breathing and listen for there heartbeat. That is what’s important. ๐Ÿ˜š

Here’s to a great tomorrow!

Grief, Life, Writing

Pain – It’s Not a Competition

It is not a competition, although some will try to make it into one.

“Yeah, but let me tell you what happened to me…”

We all have stories to tell and they should be told. There is often healing in our sharing and it may give others hope. There is resilience and a vulnerable courage in sharing our pain and also our triumphs.

There can be “life after” if we choose it and others stories may help us get there. But sometimes, preaching to myself here, we need to shut up and just listen. Or sit in silence with someone in their pain.

There is more than enough these days to go around.

(Read Job 2:13)

Life, memoir, Writing

Are you receiving my NEWSLETTER?

I have sent out my most recent newsletter just today and it can be viewed here.

It is a great way to keep up to date and be one of the first to hear about exciting events and happenings. My memoir is now available in both print and e-book formats.

Purchase your copy here:

Amazon > https://www.amzn.com/1639031022

Barnes and Noble > https://www.bn.com/s/9781639031023

I have some exciting changes coming up and new opportunities that I will be sharing. So, let’s start the conversation about

“Life after…”

Adventure, God, Life

I reckon… it’s time to get LOST!

“๐‘บ๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’†๐’” ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐‘ณ๐‘ถ๐‘บ๐‘ป… ๐’„๐’‚๐’–๐’”๐’† ๐’Š๐’•’๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’˜๐’‚๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’…๐’Š๐’”๐’„๐’๐’—๐’†๐’“ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’‚๐’Š๐’.”

Wyoming – Beartooth Mountains

I reckon it is time to be moving on today and see what adventure lies ahead. ๐Ÿ‘Š

  • What do you do to rediscover yourself?
  • Do you ever feel the need to get lost?

Even Jesus went away to be alone, and I find that nature has a way of healing my soul. The world, at least the news, tells us that everything is in disarray and chaotic. And at times it can be, it is then that we must re-center and discover ourselves again. What works for you?

“๐‘บ๐’๐’Ž๐’†๐’•๐’Š๐’Ž๐’†๐’” ๐’š๐’๐’– ๐’๐’†๐’†๐’… ๐’•๐’ ๐’ˆ๐’†๐’• ๐‘ณ๐‘ถ๐‘บ๐‘ป… ๐’„๐’‚๐’–๐’”๐’† ๐’Š๐’•’๐’” ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐’ƒ๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐’˜๐’‚๐’š ๐’•๐’ ๐’…๐’Š๐’”๐’„๐’๐’—๐’†๐’“ ๐’š๐’๐’–๐’“๐’”๐’†๐’๐’‡ ๐’‚๐’ˆ๐’‚๐’Š๐’.” #Quote #SundayThoughts #Motivation #Encouragement

Life, memoir, Photograph

Coming changes, can you see them?

A line from the movie Stagecoach.

There are changes coming my friends. Perhaps some for the better and some for the worse. Who knows?

I cannot see that far in the future to know what may come. There is one who does because he is already there and that is where I choose to place my trust.

These changes will irrevocably change us as we move forward.

Because as the Ringo Kid (John Wayne) said in Stagecoach, there are some things you just can’t run away from. ๐Ÿ‘Š

Available now on Amazon – https://www.amzn.com/1639031022
Grief, Writing

My Memoir is Available for Pre-sale!!!

Although not officially released my memoir ๐—–๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ฏ๐—ผ๐˜†๐˜€ ๐—”๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐—ก๐—ผ๐˜ ๐—ฆ๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—–๐—ฟ๐˜† is now available to purchase through pre-sale on Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com – go order a copy today!

My publisher Christian Faith Publishing is currently converting the book to the various E-book formats to upload soon. They are also creating a video trailer for the book and a press release to go out to thousands of media outlets including bloggers, journalists, newspapers, television and radio stations, websites and book reviewers. When the press release goes out that will be the “official release” for the book, but why wait?

Go order your copy today! It is a story of love, hope, and healing.

Again, you can now purchase the book online at Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com.

Soon I will be offering autographed copies through my website here, along with some other promotional events and giveaways to compliment the book. Stay tuned for that!

How can you support me and help promote the book?

  1. Buy the book (hardcopy and e-book), read the book and share on social media, post a review on Amazon, Goodreads etc.
  2. Buy the book (hardcopy and e-book), read the book and share on social media.
  3. Buy the book (hardcopy and e-book).

P.S. – I am planning an audio version of the book to be available soon also!

Thank you all so much for your support and encouragement! 

Go live your dreams because there is life after…

~Mark (Exodus 15:3)

God, Grief, Life, Writing

Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry – A Memoir

๐‘จ๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐‘ฉ๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’€๐’๐’– ๐‘ช๐’‚๐’ ๐‘ซ๐’ ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐‘ซ๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’‰ ๐‘ฐ๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐‘น๐’Š๐’…๐’† ๐’๐’‡๐’‡ ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’Š๐’•?

So excited, I received the first physical copies of my memoir and upcoming book today! ๐Ÿ‘Š

Shows me, the author, holding the first physical copy of my upcoming memoir - Cowboys Are Not Supposed to Cry
First physical copy of my upcoming book! (8/11/2021)

Thank you Jesus, and my family, and friends for all the love and support, and my publisher Christian Faith Publishing. The story of my journey carrying grief and healing will be soon be available. I pray it blesses and helps others dealing with the pain of loss.

๐‘จ๐’๐’… ๐’•๐’‰๐’† ๐‘ฉ๐’†๐’”๐’• ๐‘ป๐’‰๐’Š๐’๐’ˆ ๐’€๐’๐’– ๐‘ช๐’‚๐’ ๐‘ซ๐’ ๐’˜๐’Š๐’•๐’‰ ๐‘ซ๐’†๐’‚๐’•๐’‰ ๐‘ฐ๐’” ๐’•๐’ ๐‘น๐’Š๐’…๐’† ๐’๐’‡๐’‡ ๐’‡๐’“๐’๐’Ž ๐’Š๐’•? #CowboysAreNotSupposedtoCry #Memoir #UpcomingBook #WritersLife #WickedQuestions

#LiveYourDreams – Exodus 15:3

Watch for a soon to be announced release date and opportunities to be part of the launch team!! This is how my story begins.

“๐€๐ฌ ๐ˆ ๐ฅ๐จ๐จ๐ค ๐›๐š๐œ๐ค ๐จ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ข๐Ÿ๐ž,โ€ฆ”

Life, Stories, Writing

A Story of Hope and Healing

I really like this black and white alternative image of the cover to my #UpcomingBook! I still like the colored version best but this definitely gives it an interesting feel. What do you think? ๐Ÿค”

๐‚๐จ๐ฐ๐›๐จ๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐€๐ซ๐ž ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐’๐ฎ๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ฌ๐ž๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐‚๐ซ๐ฒ

My #memoir will soon be published by Christian Faith Publishing and hopefully will be available within the next month or so.

“๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜บ, ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฎ๐˜บ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ…” ๐Ÿ‘Š

I share my personal journey of carrying grief and healing, while navigating my own personal and the societal expectations surrounding grief that are often placed upon men.

I can’t wait for both men and the women who love their men in their lives, to read it as it is ultimately a story of hope and healing. โค I also believe my story will speak to some ladies out there as well.

Sign here on the website ๐— ๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ธ ๐—ช๐—ฎ๐˜†๐—ป๐—ฒ – ๐—”๐˜‚๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐—ช๐—ฎ๐—ฟ๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ฟ to receive an occasional email with updates about my book and other exciting news. ๐Ÿ‘Š

P.S. Have a nice day! ๐Ÿค  Exodus 15:3

#LiveYourDreams

I share my personal journey of carrying grief and healing, while navigating my own personal and the societal expectations surrounding grief that are often placed upon men. #Memoir #CowboysAreNotSupposedtoCry #Healing #MentalHealth

I can’t wait for both men and the women who love their men in their lives, to read it as it is ultimately a story of hope and healing. โค I also believe my story will speak to some ladies out there as well. #Memoir #CowboysAreNotSupposedtoCry #Healing #MentalHealth